Tuesday, 20 April 2010 at 03:51
In my opinion, it seems that in this day and age, males in general have this high and mighty veiw of themselves, and that if any of these unwritten rules are violated, they are sure to be publically ridiculed by all others, should their 'crimes' be discovered. Sadly enough, this tends to be proven true. A good example, would be clothes shopping. A general rule of thumb for guys, is to not try anything on at all, if it can be helped. A couple of weekends ago, I violated this, by not only going clothes shopping, but I was also accompanied by two females, and not only was the sole point of the trip to buy clothes for ME, but I also tried on every single article they handed me. Needless to say, quite a few pictures were taken, (I ended up spending 494$, so had a few outfits at least..lol) and many ended up on facebook. Almost every single guy who saw these pictures, and knew me at all, made some sort of comment about it. This is just one example of a stereotype that not only fails to treat all as equals, but could potentially serve to isolate people. God created all men (humans) equal, so why should we judge if a guy wants to do something that in general, only females do? Suppose in the above scenario, the same situation occurred, but it was with someone who actually struggled with homosexuality. To him, having girls pick out his clothes would perhaps be a way for him to combat his temptation. Now, he goes to church, and is made fun of. Not only is the love of Christ- a love that he graciously pours out on all- not shown to him, but you unwillingly push him further away from Christ, the Church, and closer to his temptation.
I am in no way trying to say that all guys should act like girls, or vice versa. What I am saying, however, is that as Christians especially, we need to step off of our high horses, and allow reason and logic to prevail. In my opinion, the main contributor to the afore mentioned problem, is pride. I believe that men tend to see it as a sign of weakness to accept help from anyone, let alone a female. Whether you admit it or not, men are meant to provide for, and protect women. I think that deep in every man's consciousness is the same basic ideal. To even think of accepting help from the person you were meant to protect and provide for, is insane. However, while I believe men are to protect and provide for females, I do not think this means in any way shape or form that men can do everything better then women. A real man, in my opinion, is one who is willing to akcnowledge when he needs help, is willing to accept that help from anyone, man or women, and is not ashamed to do so. Obviously, other things may also determine a 'real man', but that is key.
I think that the ancient knights had it right with their 'Code of Chivalry'. If the world were to adopt a stance of chivalry, I think we would be much much better off. I have put together a small list of what I think could greatly help everyone. It is in no way complete, but a step in the right direction.
-First and foremost, obey God's law. (the Bible)
-Treat all others not only as you would want to be treated, but as better then yourself. As Jesus washed his disciples feet, so should we be able to wash the feet of others.
-If you are stronger then someone, either physically, or mentally, or however it may be, use your strength not as a weapon, but as a shield. Defend those who have weaknesses.
Do not let pride get in your way of doing what is right. If you want something, then the fear of what mere humans think should not be a factor at all.
I am in no way trying to say that all guys should act like girls, or vice versa. What I am saying, however, is that as Christians especially, we need to step off of our high horses, and allow reason and logic to prevail. In my opinion, the main contributor to the afore mentioned problem, is pride. I believe that men tend to see it as a sign of weakness to accept help from anyone, let alone a female. Whether you admit it or not, men are meant to provide for, and protect women. I think that deep in every man's consciousness is the same basic ideal. To even think of accepting help from the person you were meant to protect and provide for, is insane. However, while I believe men are to protect and provide for females, I do not think this means in any way shape or form that men can do everything better then women. A real man, in my opinion, is one who is willing to akcnowledge when he needs help, is willing to accept that help from anyone, man or women, and is not ashamed to do so. Obviously, other things may also determine a 'real man', but that is key.
I think that the ancient knights had it right with their 'Code of Chivalry'. If the world were to adopt a stance of chivalry, I think we would be much much better off. I have put together a small list of what I think could greatly help everyone. It is in no way complete, but a step in the right direction.
-First and foremost, obey God's law. (the Bible)
-Treat all others not only as you would want to be treated, but as better then yourself. As Jesus washed his disciples feet, so should we be able to wash the feet of others.
-If you are stronger then someone, either physically, or mentally, or however it may be, use your strength not as a weapon, but as a shield. Defend those who have weaknesses.
Do not let pride get in your way of doing what is right. If you want something, then the fear of what mere humans think should not be a factor at all.
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